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Doing and efforting are very different things

I notice that whenever I have a lot going on and care deeply about what I am doing ( like finishing the first draft of my new book, I’m almost there! wow!), I start to make an effort. I tense my jaw, hold my pen tighter, type like I’m attacking the keyboard, talk faster, get […]

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Why celebrating small things can change the big things

When you celebrate something you did, you fire positive emotions that teach your pliable, sweet brain: I can trust myself to keep my commitments! It feels good to take action! I did my scary sh*t and nothing ate me! And when you don’t acknowledge what you did, when you don’t say “Yay! I wrote my 750 […]

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Fear causes contraction & other health lessons

I got a clean bill of health last Thursday. One doc said, “You have boring lab work and boring joints” while another said, “We use a scale of 24 and you are a 2.”   I’m so happy to be boring! After I celebrated, soaking in the Spring feeling of my good health news,  I […]

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The Wisdom of Beginning

I tell writers at my writing retreats: “Don’t confuse beginning with the beginning.  Beginning is just starting. It has nothing to do with knowing what the opening of your piece, what your piece is ultimately about, or even where it will end up.” Thinking you need to know the beginning of your project before you […]

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On working with troubling health news

This week I got some possibly scary health news. Nope, it’s not cancer or anything life-threatening, but it brought about one of those “holy shit!” moments; the first I’ve had. It’s also complicated with multiple physical things possibly converging to make me have odd symptoms. I’ve had a ton of health challenges in my life, […]

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What I’ve Been Reading

I’m overdue to share what I’ve enjoyed in my eclectic reading life. Pick and choose what calls to you. Hope you find new books and ideas! ESSAYS, INTERVIEWS, AND SMALL BITS ONLINE A Neuroscientist on Love and Learning: An Interview with Richard DavidsonBecause love is everything. Pair with a Loving Kindness Meditation by Sylvia Boorstein or my friend […]

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A Guide To Creating Your Own Writing Retreat

When you read this, I’ll be halfway through a seven-day personal writing retreat in a cabin off the grid, up high in the Colorado Rockies. I wanted to share my prep and my fears about going on a solo writing retreat because while I lead super fantastic writing retreats, you can make your own, and […]

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This is Your Life Purpose

From where I stand, too many conversations about life purpose centers around making money, being original, becoming well-known, making a big impact, garnering a ton of Instagram followers, or having ONE TRUE PURPOSE. As if your life purpose was singular and final, somewhere you arrive. I say hogwash. Your purpose in life is as natural, […]

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Thoughts on Taking Care of Yourself When Life is Hard

It’s okay to feel exactly what you’re feeling. You don’t need to feel any different than you do. (I often forget this and try to fix what I’m feeling rather than witnessing and welcoming.) Raise your arms up overhead. Exhale long and slow. Relax your shoulders. You are here and it’s going to be okay. […]

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