How do you get your creative & scary sh*t done? And how do you keep getting it done… even when life is hard and busy and full of distractions?
And why get it done anyway when it might not matter? When you think you’re not good enough? When doing your scary sh*t triggers every last ounce of self-doubt you have?
Because getting your creative and scary sh*t done is your growth point. It’s all of ours. It’s where we develop our character, live our purpose, discover what we are truly capable of.
Maybe this sounds familiar to you. You get an idea for a project. The excitement and momentum and clarity is all there. This time you’re going to follow through.
But then the day-to-day realities of life show up and with it, all of the reasons why you should table the project. Why you need more time before you do it. Why you must have the perfect job or degree or creative space before you can do it. Or why you must be crowned worthy by someone else in order for you to put your time and energy and effort into the project.
So you put it on the back burner… only to revisit it – and get excited about the idea of it – a hundred more times in the next year. Maybe even over the next decade!
But here’s what happens when you declare your desire to create something but you don’t follow through. You learn not to trust yourself. You learn you can’t be counted on. You learn that what you want? It doesn’t matter. You learn not to listen to and follow through on the thread of your life. Which eventually leads you to conclude you’re simply not good enough.
Which is a big soul-sucking lie.
My job is to help you discover what’s keeping you from getting your scary sh*t done so you can finally get your creative, important, and straight up joyful work out of your head and your heart, and into the world.
Whether that work is a book, a business, an act of activism, more health, more connection, whatever calls to you.
Because your voice, your art, your creative expression, your life deserves a seat at the table. It matters.
Getting your creative & scary sh*t done is an act of bravery. But it’s NOT reserved for the chosen few. Never!
I know because I’ve been wrestling with getting my scary sh*t done for over two decades. In the beginning, the battles were hard fought and often lost, at least for a few weeks. Then I would pick myself up and start again. All those years of writing eight books, speaking nationally, teaching retreats, appearing on national TV while being scared sometimes to the point of almost running off stage? They taught me a lot about fear. These days, working with my fears has become a practice that’s so deeply part of me that I surprise myself about how much scary sh*t I do on an almost daily basis – and how much joy I often feel in the process. Joy – who knew that was possible?!?
That doesn’t mean it’s not hard for me. Fear still trips me up, for sure! But I’ve learned the power of holding both thoughts: this is hard AND I’m also going to do it. I’m afraid AND I am not my fear. I love to make stuff AND I am utterly enough just as I am.
And through my books, the Oasis, my writing retreats and online courses, I’ve helped something like a million women identify their scariest sh*t and then get to it… because this is what I know for sure: with each scary desire you follow through on, you change how you see yourself. And you change who you can become and what you can create. Because once you do that one really scary thing, you’ll do the next one, too.
If this idea stirs your heart like it does mine, then please join me. Because getting your scary sh*t done is not an adventure you want to do alone. I would love to accompany you.
Get your creative & scary sh*t done.
The “official bio”:
Jennifer Louden is a personal growth pioneer who helped launch the concept of self-care with her first best-selling book The Woman’s Comfort Book. She’s the author of 6 additional books on well-being and whole living: The Couple’s Comfort Book, The Pregnant Woman’s Comfort Book, The Woman’s Retreat Book, Comfort Secrets for Busy Women (The Comfort Queen’s Guide to Life in hardcover), The Life Organizer, and A Year of Daily Joy. There are about a million copies of her books in print in 9 languages.
Jennifer has spoken around the U.S., Canada and Europe, written a national magazine column for a Martha Stewart magazine, been profiled or quoted in dozens of major magazines, and appeared on hundreds of TV and radio shows, even on Oprah. Jennifer has been teaching retreats and leading workshops since 1992, and creating vibrant on-line communities and innovative learning experiences since 2000. She married the love of her life at 50, and is the very proud mom of Lillian and very proud bonus mom to Aidan.
what i'm obsessed with
Running especially on trails in the moonlight (okay not the moonlight part but I do like to snowshoe under a full moon).
Coaching writers to bring their voices and books into the world.
Reading like a writer. How does Mary Karr do what she does?
Playing with ideas for a new book, Why Bother. Not getting attached and giving myself support.
what delights me
Touching peace and well-being even when - especially when! - I’m anxious about writing or teaching or my business.
My daughter Lillian and my bonus son Aidan. It’s a marvel to watch your kids grow up and become their own people. Lilly is twenty-four and thriving in Seattle, Aidan is twenty-one and such a dear.
Studying how people write and then helping them intervene and play with their process so they can write with more ease and even joy.
Nurturing my online community and creating weekly audios and 10 minute writing practices that address their struggles and support their projects.
Being so in love with my husband Bob. We meet 10 years ago and everyday gets better. I’m so proud of us for growing together.
what's tripping me up
Working too much. Cramming in one too many things in the day or week.
Sometimes (still!) saying yes when I should say no.
Over prepping when I teach.
Sometimes still writing what and how I think I should instead of getting quiet and listening to what’s true for me and interesting and mine to say.
my daily ritual
Planning my day the night before. ALWAYS. I use Conditions of Enoughness and other tools we use in The Writer’s Oasis.
Morning starts with cuddling Bob, then meditation, then check email, and then latte. Latte in hand, off I go to write.
Weekends all bets are off - I need unstructured time or I get super cranky and then I rebel and it all goes to hell.
I believe we are at a time in history where we have a real chance to end racism, sexism, ageism, ableism, genderism, and all the other isms that pit one group of humans against another and concentrate power and resources in the hands of the patriarchy.
I have actively worked for many years with my own racism and well as learning about gender roles, sexual orientation, and the role of privilege and how it has shaped me.
I actively use my platform to support all kinds of perspectives and voices, especially economically.
I’m a believer in the power of creativity + awareness + action to shape a better world for all. Let’s create that together.
Live & create with no holding back.
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