Tips On Finishing What You Start
Finishing what you start is not always simple. I get this question all the time: “How do I know when I’m finished?” We yearn to know with clarity when we’ve crossed the finish line; to know we have done our best and that we can rest. But finishing what you start rarely feels like that. […]
Continue readingHoliday Book Gift Guide
Like many book lovers, I buy books as gifts and I’m always looking for book recommendations and book gift guides. When I have to buy a gift for someone that doesn’t read, I’m genuinely stumped. Then I go buy myself a book or two to fortify myself for non-book shopping. 🙂 In the spirit of […]
Continue readingHow to Forgive Yourself for the Holidays: You Can’t Rewrite History
The holidays used to trigger all sorts of self-recriminations in me. I used to wonder how to forgive yourself, forgive myself, for mistakes from seasons past. Awful toxic stuff. I would castigate myself for all the ways I wasn’t grateful enough; for all the ways I squandered times that are now gone forever because my […]
Continue readingEmbracing Anti-Productivity and Living Your Human-Scaled Life
I coined the term “human-scaled life” when I was making a weekly Oasis audio a few years ago, as an antidote to our endless drive to be productive or an anti-productivity hack. I coined it in response to the insane pressure many of us experience around being productive, to always be improving, to be certain […]
Continue readingHow to Become the Person You Want to Be
I often say when teaching or coaching, “You become the person who can do the thing you want to do by doing it.” You become the person you want to be. By which I mean you aren’t that person when you start your project, but you grow into being that person through the act of […]
Continue readingDoes your Procrastination Need Discernment?
I made you a procrastination discernment flow chart, because we all procrastinate for different reasons. We need to know why we are procrastinating to know what to do differently. Start at the beginning. What to do if you selected YES! or Yes, but… Yes, you want to do _____. Maybe you want to write a […]
Continue readingWhat Pleasure Has To Do With Productivity
Here’s a statement I hear pretty darn regularly, “I know I want to _______ (finish my book, start dating again, clean out the art studio, go back to school), but instead I do a million other things that I don’t really want to do and then I veg on the couch. I rebel against myself […]
Continue readingFeeling Despair? You Know, You Can Begin Again Any Time
Have you ever had a feeling of despair sneak up on you? I scared myself last week. I won’t bore you with all the details, but after forty-five minutes stuck in a morning snowstorm on the highway, I got home and was so exhausted, I went back to bed. For most of the day. I’ve […]
Continue readingInviting Joy and Wonder to Help Start Something New
I know I’ve been writing non-stop about fear lately. That’s because I was prepping for, and now am teaching GSSD. But mostly it’s because I am learning a joyful and wondering way to be TERRIFIED. You see, I’m taking all kinds of risks these days with my new book. What I wrote is incredibly personal. Then there […]
Continue readingYou’re afraid, I’m afraid, let’s talk about it over the apples
My daughter Lillian and I often share our fears. We do it by text these days as she lives in Seattle and I’m in Colorado (for new readers, my girl is 25 and launched into her first career in pediatric mental health). We used to do in the car, where kids often talk to their […]
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