Category Archives for How to Serve

How I Dealt with Being Called Out (and Seen) on Social Media

I get this question pretty often from students and clients, “I don’t share my work because I’m afraid of being attacked, ridiculed, misunderstood.” I always respond that I get it. It does feel frightening both because of how our world feels so angry and divided, and because of how the internet works (anonymity for one […]

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When you feel helpless and overwhelmed by the world

Dear lovely reader, The terrible events of the world never stop coming at you. It’s not unique to this time in history – really it isn’t – but the Internet has made it almost impossible to not feel inundated and overwhelmed, angry and helpless. It becomes so hard to be just one person doing what […]

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Transitions, Teaching, and the Thread of Desire

Hi Loves- I miss writing fresh posts for you and focusing most of my writing energy on the book project feels right – for now. How to be here learning with you and also out there floating and paddling in the vast unknown of the emerging book? That is one of many things I’ll be […]

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Freedom from Self-Improvement

I posted on Facebook last week: “Be willing to look at your own life and want more for yourself without beating yourself up or making it about another self-improvement plan.” Molly replied, “I joke that I’m tired of my life being one long self-improvement project. However, I also want to reach my own potential!” That made me sit […]

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How to stop negativity & get more of what you really want

What do you do when you’re afflicted with the “negativity see-me’s?” Or when someone afflicts them on you? In case you aren’t aware, the “negativity see-me’s” are when your brain’s natural negativity bias meets your need to connect, to be seen, to be understood. In case it’s not clear, I made that term up. The way […]

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Savor & Serve October Love Lights

This weekend I’m moving my mom into assisted living. It’s a beautiful new place 3 blocks from me. The people are lovely and my mom is the consummate extrovert so I have high hopes for a surge in her well-being. We’ve decorated her apartment beautifully. I am so grateful for the support… and I am, […]

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Is it time to give privileged guilt the boot?

You are mostly likely privileged. I know I certainly am. I have running water, flush toilets, shoes, enough to eat, and no one is shooting at me. I do work I find fulfilling. I experience love and I am able to love others. I eat organic produce, breathe clean air, sleep safely at night. I […]

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But This Will Make You Happier!

It’s a bit steep. Coming toward me, downhill, is a handsome woman, about my age, her son, 17 or 18, and her husband. She’s using a Gandalf-style wooden walking staff, borrowed from the hotel. Even with just a quick glance, I can see this is one fit, hip mama. Then I hear the son, “Mom, […]

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