Who or what is eating your time?

I loved “stepping out of time” in yesterday’s audio. I’ve started to make this a regular practice, especially when I find myself with time to spare in, say, the doctor’s waiting room.

Today we’re going to get current with our time monsters. Time monsters are things we have to do such as making dinner, respond to emails, or clean the toilet. But it’s when, how often, or how perfectly we do them that turns them into something that eats our time.

Time monsters love summer and winter! They thrive on the story that you’ve got plenty of time to do what you care about, so why get to it now?

Get to know your time monsters without shame or blame, and defang their sneaky stories. You are a better person if you tend to them first.

Look forward to hearing from you about how this audio lands.

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Joann - May 31, 2019

Ah ha. That was a great idea. I have turned what i want to do…….be free, make a lot of art, read in the sun, into a time monster. I am enrolled in more art classes than I can possibly do. I have boxed myself in with an impossible schedule, two art lesson a day, pressure to show improvement. Took all the fun out of making art. I am in my basement studio all day, frustrated with my lack of ability. No good. Too worn out at night to read, never get outside. I need to go back to my intention and rearrange myself. Choose to put the art making into a smaller pot and turn down the heat. Add a small pot for a reading break mid afternoon, put gardening back on the stove to get outside. I need to learn to weed with a tool, I cannot spend hours on my knees. Put my practical side to work and create a safe place for my heart to spend making art for the joy of it. Jen, you are so smart.

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    jlouden - June 1, 2019

    No Joann YOU are so smart. Truly you have such great insights into life. Turn down the art pot, brilliant!

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Linda - May 31, 2019

This process is like a jolt to my psyche—just what I need to remember my goals and make them happen. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and energy.

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    jlouden - June 1, 2019

    I’m a little electric bolt 🙂

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Cat - May 31, 2019

Jen, I so appreciate your simple and challenging questions… Will be mulling over all of the thoughts and insights that have arisen over these three days… And I’ll see you tomorrow at the virtual retreat. Thanks.

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    jlouden - June 1, 2019

    See you soon!!

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Linda Williams - May 31, 2019

Mmmm.. Time monsters. Putting them in their place and deciding what’s good about them. That helps a lot. One of mine is our dog and cats that require care… but they give back so much love while you’re caring for them, that I don’t regret the time they take. Cooking, laundry, cleaning… all necessary, and I find I have enjoyed learning new ways to cook to suit Bob’s diet needs, and that I prefer my food over the ones at restaurants…. though I appreciate the time “off” when I don’t have to cook. Learning to know when I HAVE to do these things, and when I can postpone them to do things I want is important. And not to feel guilty when I do that. Good one.

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jlouden - June 1, 2019

This!! “Learning to know when I HAVE to do these things, and when I can postpone them to do things I want is important. And not to feel guilty when I do that. Good one.”

and also learning that sometimes those things, as important as they are, get short shrift so you can do something else you want to do, too!

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Suzanne - June 2, 2019

Hey Jen! Thank-you! A common thread shared by all my time monsters (in answering your question: “what do you get from them?”) is a job well done / mastery / sense of accomplishment.

However: could I choose to let the email responses, dishes, packed lunches for my son, gardening… be good enough and select one or two things to pursue mastery (ie: piano, which I’ve been neglecting as I don’t “have time”? Hmmm.

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    jlouden - June 5, 2019

    love where you are going with this. your brain loves to get its good chemicals flowing by you doing things but it doesn’t care about the things you have to work hard at, it has a total present moment bias — give me now!

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Deb Dawson-Dunn - June 5, 2019

Great question to ask what’s good about time monsters….what came up for me is that my time monsters give me certainty. I know how to do them, I don’t know how to write the next sentence or express and experience in words. It’s much easier to empty the dishwasher because I am a master at that!!

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