Ripening.

Sep 28, 2022

I’m turning 60 near the end of this year and as feels appropriate, my desires are shifting. Changing. Ripening.

I admit to some trepidation writing to you about aging as the subject is still somewhat taboo in our culture.

I had a famous friend say to me recently when I wished her happy birthday, “Don’t tell anybody how old I am.”

I had two reactions to what she said: I get it and ouch, that’s sad but again, I totally understand.

I don’t want to hide my age.

And I don’t want to age gracefully. That sounds boring to me, like when my dad told me to “be a lady.”

I don’t want my age to define me with its tightening of fear and attachment to comfort but I also don’t want to pretend to be someone I no longer am.

Richard Rohr put good words to what I’m experiencing:

“Ripening, at its best, is a slow, patient learning, and sometimes even a happy letting go—a seeming emptying out to create readiness for a new kind of fullness—which we are never sure about. If we do not allow our own ripening, an ever-increasing resistance and denial sets in, an ever-increasing protection around an over-defended self. At our very best, we learn how to hope as we ripen…

…The ripening of mind and heart is most basically a capacity for nondual consciousness and contemplation. So my guidance is a simple reminder to recall what we will be forced to learn by necessity and under pressure anyway—the open-ended way of allowing and the deep meaning that some call faith. To live in trustful faith is to ripen; it is almost that simple.”

Ripening: that’s what I’m up to.

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I’m also intrigued by how different I feel about ambition and goals.

and before I wrote , the feeling I had about writing another book was desperation — who was I if I didn’t write another book!

Now the feeling I have about writing another book is open-hearted curiosity completely unattached to shoulds or my identity. I might, I might not. I’m open.

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I’ll write more from the edge of 60 so stay tuned.

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