Union, Carrot Juice and Your Gorgeous Unique Heart

Shazaaaaam!
My last post about letting go of boxes, the box of who I am or who think I’m supposed to be, strummed a cord of freedom with so many of you.
We see how we get in the way of savoring and serving – for entire moments at a time (insert wry grin).

Here’s what D. said:

I just watched your latest video and I am speechless. Your vulnerability and raw courage and honesty with this project have inspired me. Yet again.
Perfect timing.
I have been grappling with something, for such a long time….I realized today that it’s about labels and identity.
If I go forward with what I know, then what am I? Artist? scientist? Both? Neither? Nothing?
Somehow, I thought I needed a label…a safe box to hide in.
Now, I see there is no box…for my own unique heart.

That last line made me weep. There is no box for your own unique heart.

Repeat after me: there is no box for your own unique heart.

I’ve spent two days thinking about why that strikes me as so damn IMPORTANT (needed caps for that).

I tried and tried to make it a big deal but you know what? It’s very simple.

Boxes, labels, walls, etc. get in the way of connection.

Without connection (with ourselves, with each other, with the Divine, with the people in Libya, with the sleet falling outside my window, with the carrot juice I made for breakfast) why savor or serve?

Seriously, think about it – without connection, why would you bother?

In a somewhat related video made after meditation this morning I explore boxes a bit more:

I await your thoughts and questions. With a boxless heart.

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Cheryl - March 4, 2011

Wow ~ I have been struggling with/resisting a great gig coming up very soon because I have convinced myself that this group is not “my tribe” and that they will be resistant to me and my work – even though they elect to sign up for my program. While watching your video just now the lightbulb went off! I have been putting them in a box! by assuming that they are putting ME in a box – Ahh! no more box for me. Freedom, right here, right now – thank you!!

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    jenniferlouden - March 7, 2011

    yeah!! tell us how it goes – you will be great because you are without a box.

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Caitlin mowbray - March 4, 2011

This is brilliant. I had an insight yesterday when contemplating a combining some ‘stuff’ as part of my offerings in business. I had one of those ‘they don’t go together…’ moments. Who says they don’t? Everything connects. Everything. I (we) cannot – should not, must not πŸ™‚ – compartmentalise ourselves, our work or our spirit. What freedom there is in knowing that!

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    jenniferlouden - March 7, 2011

    Yeah Caitlin – yeah yeah celebrating with you!

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CJ - March 5, 2011

Thank you so much for this. On my website, I finally gave myself permission to sort of let my process hang out there while trying to write about what I do and not wanting to call it a “thing”. Great to get validation and hear what others have to say about not boxing themselves up.

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    jenniferlouden - March 7, 2011

    Calling it something too soon is dangerous, i think, to the creative process. So important to stay fluid, remind me of that in an hour! πŸ™‚

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Amy Sullivan - March 5, 2011

So glad I found you through Britt! I can’t wait to bounce around and check your place out more.

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    jenniferlouden - March 7, 2011

    welcome Amy!

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Gail McConnon - March 5, 2011

Jen – I just have to tell you… The book I’m finishing up contains a 5 part series titled “The Box”. It looks like our boxes are coming into their own. Thank you for sharing this and the last video. I love the direction you’re taking! – g

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    jenniferlouden - March 7, 2011

    your book, the one you are writing!! ?

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Crescent Dragonwagon - March 6, 2011

What if all I needed to do was to lace my sneakers and walk 16 blocks to join you and the 4 wonder-women you have kindly gathered together? To wear my swingy earrings and step, step, step through Seattle…savoring each way my limbs move, my heart beats, my eyes open to croci and dutch iris abloom here… there’s suffering simultaneously & heavy heartedness (eldercare-sibling matters, as you know): and yet. And yet!
“I wake to sleep and take my waking slow.
I feel my fate in what I cannot fear.
I learn by going where I have to go.”
— Theodore Roethke, The Waking

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    jenniferlouden - March 7, 2011

    thanks for walking the 16 blocks to connect – lovely lovely lovely!

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Alex Blackwell - March 6, 2011

Hi Jen, I can tell you this – my heart was made to serve!

Alex

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    jenniferlouden - March 7, 2011

    that sure is true!

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jenniferlouden - March 7, 2011

that made my day!

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jenniferlouden - March 7, 2011

Heather, I quoted you today on our Savor & Serve Cafe call. Also, I read your comment after a dinner with Michele, Ronna, Lianne and Crescent Dragonwagon in which Ronna said something very similar. So good to learn from you.

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jenniferlouden - March 7, 2011

so beautifully said Kristin! Opening our eyes to wildness of our own hearts – love that. Every blessing to you, yes!

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Tricia Karp - March 7, 2011

The Undefended Heart – yes please. Yummy, you are πŸ™‚

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    jenniferlouden - March 7, 2011

    Thanks Tricia!!!

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Ruth - March 7, 2011

Lovely Jen. No more ‘who am I?’ Just ‘I am’.

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Grace - March 7, 2011

I knew it would be worth the read. Has anyone else read any Richard Rohr books? One is titled, “Everything Belongs”. In it, there is a quote that says, “God is always bigger than the boxes we build for God, so we should not waste too much time protecting the boxes.” That post not meant to offend anyone on any side of the religion topic, but to say that we are all bigger than any box too. Any box you put me in negates the other parts of me that serve the ones in the box. Plus, when I’m in a box, I’m immediately pushing on the walls, trying to find a way out.
Lovely thinking and writing, Jen.

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    jenniferlouden - March 7, 2011

    I have but not that one. Thanks Grace for the kindness. I so appreciate it. And yes, me and the pushing on the box, exactly!!!

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Mahala - March 8, 2011

The ultimate insanity of it all is we create these boxes ourselves thinking our heart needs defending. Staying open. Yes. A lifetime practice.

It reminds me of a quote of Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche’s that Pema Chodron has repeated. I couldn’t find the eloquent version, so I will paraphrase here:

“The purpose of our practice is to maintain an open heart in the face of everything, without ever centralizing into ourselves.”

Much love to you ~ Mahala

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    jenniferlouden - March 9, 2011

    yes yes yes!

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