I found an old email file this last weekend.
Okay, truth: I found several. I’m not saying how many.
These were email files filled with advice and instructions from coaches and consultants I hired in the past.
As I read some of these emails, I blushed.
There were so many things they’d suggested that I never actually tried.
Truth: it would have been too much work. I hired them secretly hoping for an easy magic pill. I didn’t want to be patient, build things, split test.
My impatience, which once upon a time helped me write a book no one thought I could write, had became a liability.
Doing the work that we are burning to do takes titanic patience. Grit. Slowing down so you can speed up later. That’s never been easy – read almost any young artist’s letters bemoaning how long her work is taking – but now, in our hyper-instant go-viral-or-go-home times, patience seems wrongheaded. Bad business. There has to be a way to make it happen this week, or by the end of the summer, or before you turn 40/50/60.
There just has to be!
Truth: looking for shortcuts has cost me. Cost not only time, energy, and money, but most painfully, my impatience battered my deepest desires.
Impatience made me believe the lie that I could not _____. (I could fill in that blank with so many things so let’s just leave it blank.)
I’m not claiming I’ve become the patient one. If I did that, Bob & Lillian would write you a blog post consisting of one humongous snort.
All I’m claiming is I’ve been watching this pattern with a loving eagle eye and I’m asking others to help me see it. I’m putting in the hours writing something I care about. I’m practicing yoga every day. I’m limiting email and social media (speeds me up & I fall into draining comparisons). I’m reminding myself what I’m devoted to: creating deeply and truly, and praying that my work is of service.
How about you? Is impatience holding you back? Or maybe you’re too patient, in which case, let’s do a switcheroo? I’ll swap you a container ship of slapdash zip for one of loving small daily steps. A win-win!
P.S. Care to share?
P.P.S. I’m going to act on some of these ancient coaching suggestions. What advice have you ignored in the past that it’s now time to heed?