The Desire Retreat

Get Your Bother On

Feed Your Creative Joy​

Soak in the Love and Support You ​Need to Discover What's Next

We all come to times in our lives where we wonder, ​​“Why bother?” 
You might feel a lack of meaning and purpose in one area like your creative work, your career, your intimate partnership, or your health. Or maybe you feel more of a low-grade “meh” mood that is pervading everything.

What if this blahness, this “WTF?,” this blankness, was actually good news? A beautiful, even glorious, opportunity?
“Why bother?” is the fierce and loving question, that when you are brave enough to ask with self-compassion and honesty, can change everything.
But being brave enough, patient enough, or focused enough to ask it alone, can be tough. Confusing. Scary.
That’s why I created this retreat.

The truth is when you are in the “why bother?” place, it can be so difficult to settle down.

Your mind and body need rest, support, and guidance so you can stop seeing your future through the same old lens, and allow desire to animate and startle you in completely new and fresh ways.

How often have you tried to settle down, to listen for what’s next, to what’s calling you, to what you desire, only to get distracted again by work, other people’s needs, or checking social media or email?
How often have you tried to go through this transition alone and found yourself right back where you started?
This is so common and so normal! I did exactly the same thing over and over again!  That’s why I wrote my new book, Why Bother?, and why it's fantastic to have a seasoned retreat guide, a safe container, and powerful activities, reflections, and writing prompts to lead you toward what’s next.
Because here’s what I know for certain: your “what’s next” is vibrant, pulsing with life, meaning, and love, and it’s waiting for you.

Your next “why bother?” is already happening; it just might need a little help and attention to be heard and believed.

Here’s what best-selling author Rick Hanson had to say after he read an advanced copy of my book:

“​This is a truly brilliant book. Jennifer Louden is warm, down-to-earth, and thoroughly practical as she explores the profound question of what matters most to each of us. It’s quite stunning how she weaves together personal stories, deep reflections, inspiration, and immediately useful actions. A gem. 

- Rick Hanson, Ph.D., author of Buddha’s Brain and Resilient

There is so much I couldn’t include in the book that we will explore in this retreat.

​Join us in Taos, NM at the historic and fascinating  Mabel Dodge Luhan House for 6 nights and 7 days devoted to resparking your creative joy and desire!

​The Mabel Dodge Luhan House has been a famous gathering spot for writers, painters, and geniuses for close to a century. The house and Mabel’s hospitality inspired everyone from Georgia O’Keeffe to Carl Jung to Martha Graham to D.H. Lawrence.

​As this is a historic building, you will encounter a degree of “funkiness” you wouldn’t find at the Ritz, but if you love stepping back in history and feeling like you are walking in Mabel’s shoes (or Georgia O’Keeffe, Ansel Adams, or even Dennis Hopper, who once owned the place), you’ll love it.

Walking the labyrinth, gazing up at Taos mountain, smelling the sage after a thunderstorm, strolling into town to take in the art and culture, or finishing up another healthy delicious meal, you might hear yourself think, “I could get used to following my desires.” And that, my friend, is exactly what this retreat is all about!

​July 26 ​– August ​1, 2020

​Taos, NM

​​The Schedule:

Arrive anytime after 3 pm and before 6 pm on July 26th to settle in. After dinner, we will settle in via a dynamic and moving opening ceremony. By the end of the first evening, you will feel at home.

​Every morning we will start with (optional) Dance Yourself Awake in our beautiful yoga studio on the property. After breakfast, we will spend the morning in session together including time for silent reflection, trickster prompts, walking the labyrinth, and time in small groups.

Lunch will be followed by supported free time with fun and silent options.
We will come back together for another group session mid-afternoon.
After dinner, there will be time for guided meditations, creative silliness, and council.
On our final day together, August 1st, we’ll enjoy our normal morning session before you head home.

The retreats I create are among the best on the planet.

Wow, that’s a bold claim.

​Okay, I can’t know that for a fact, but what I do know is hundreds of women over the course of 20+ years have told me, “I have been to so many retreats and yours are the best.” I can’t wait to share this brand new Desire Retreat experience with you based on my new book, Why Bother? Discover the Desire for What’s Next. 

“​I love this book like I love my closest girlfriends, because just like them, it is funny and smart and brave. Like them, it is comfortable with the mess and the vulnerability--in me and in life. Like them, it digs into the details, the nuances of how we forge our paths, the stuff it often seems like no one is willing to talk about. Whenever I put it down while reading, I craved going back to it, for more mentorship and comfort.

It's a truism among us personal growth writers to say that everything we are writing about has been written about a thousand times before, but I'm telling you - this book is important, and it has never been written before.

-Tara Mohr, author, Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create and Lead

Join me and a group of like-minded, no-advice giving people for a retreat like no other.
What will be different for you after this retreat?

  • You'll know what is no longer yours to bother about and you’ll start to let it go
  • ​You'll see where your identity and self-concept need to shift for your next “why bother?” to ​take shape
  • ​You'll have given voice to your signature themes and identified next steps to explore
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    ​You'll have touched oneness through your body, through stillness, and through self-compassion
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    ​You'll know you are seen and that you belong
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    ​You'll have a clear idea of how to use Conditions of Enoughness to continue your exploration
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    ​You'll have played, created, wondered, and experienced moments of awe and soul reconnection
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    ​You'll know your desires matter

Most importantly?

​You’ll have rested deeply.

You will know the spaciousness and time your body and mind
need to calm down and listen honestly.

Registration Requirements

This desire retreat is open to women and anyone who identifies as female and is ready to co-create the retreat with me and the group by showing up fully, following gentle guidelines, and bringing an open mind and heart.

​The rooms vary widely in size and furnishings.

Rooms will be assigned in order of registration. We cannot guarantee rooms even if you come beforehand and are in a certain room because we assign rooms based on the order of registration.

​Note: If you will not be happy unless you are placed in a certain room, please do not attend. Of course, if you must be on the ground floor for any reason, ask and we will do our very best to place you there.

Smoking is restricted to designated areas outdoors. Also, keep in mind that Taos is a high-elevation destination. It can take a little time to adjust, so you may wish to come to the area a day or two early if you know you are affected by altitude. (If you do come early, you must book directly with Mable Dodge, and we cannot promise you will stay in your same room.)

Your retreat includes all meals, all supplies, all activities, and your choice of a single room or a shared room.

To select your spot, choose a room type below. 
You’ll be taken to PayPal to place your deposit and then automatically
redirected to a brief application.

​Shared Double:

$2590 or 4 payments of $675

​Shared ​Double - 1 Payment

​Shared ​Double - 4 Payments

​Regular Single Room:

$2840 or 4 payments of $735

​Single Room - 1 Payment

Only 1 spot left!

​Single Room - 4 Payments

Only 1 spot left!

​Premium Single Room:

$2990 or 4 payments of $775

​Single Room - 1 Payment

​Single Room - 4 Payments


Need to cancel after paying in full? If you cancel more than 90 days before the retreat begins, we will return your payment minus the non-refundable deposit. The non-refundable deposit is equivalent to the first payment of the 4-pay option for the retreat spot you selected. If you cancel within 90 days of the retreat, we will not refund any monies, but you are welcome to sell or give away your spot, contingent upon the guest filling out the questionnaire and/or having a short conversation with Jen first.  

What about the coronavirus? 

We will follow the CDC’s guidelines for coronavirus so for example, if you need to cancel because of your age or underlying health conditions, or if domestic instructions from the CDC change to restrict travel, we will waive our refund policy.

These retreats are for: 

  • Anyone in a transition of any kind: career, family, divorce, empty nest, retirement, before or after grad school, you name it
  • ​Anyone craving new creative life and spirit
  • ​Anyone who feels they can’t settle down long enough to truly listen to what they want and need
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    ​Anyone who is afraid to discover her desires
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    ​Anyone who keeps putting her career, her family, her friends, her parents, her pets first
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    Anyone who is willing to co-create with me and the group, to show up bravely and fully, and to take responsibility for her experience

These retreats are not for: 

  • ​Anyone in crisis; this retreat is NOT a therapeutic retreat and is not suitable for anyone whose life is in a meltdown
  • ​Anyone currently suffering from an episode of serious depression
  • ​​Anyone who needs to emerge from this retreat with a clear plan for immediate action; especially in regards to earning money
  • ​​Anyone who will not or cannot participate in small group sharing (carefully created small groups with a very specific container and guidelines)
  • ​Anyone who isn’t comfortable with a range of life experiences and people
  • ​Anyone who can’t maintain silence or an advice-free zone​

Who Is Jen?

Jennifer Louden is a personal growth pioneer who helped launch the concept of self-care with her first bestseller, The Woman’s Comfort Book. Since then, she’s written seven additional books on well-being and whole living, including The Woman’ s Retreat Book and The Life Organizer, with close to a million copies of her books in print in nine languages. Jennifer has spoken around the U.S., Canada, and Europe, and has written a national magazine column for a Martha Stewart magazine. She’s been profiled or quoted in dozens of major magazines; two of Brené Brown’s books, Daring Greatly and Dare to Lead; and appeared on hundreds of TV, radio shows and podcasts—even on Oprah.

Her newest and most personal book Why Bother? Discover the Desire for What’s Next will be published on May 5, 2020.

Jennifer has been teaching workshops and retreats since 1992 and creating vibrant online learning experiences since 1999. She writes weekly to her email list of 20,000 and hosts an online community of over 600 members. She lives in Boulder County, Colorado.

Jen’s superpower is loving you into doing. She thrives on helping you believe in yourself by taking action on your writing desires. She is a master at creating safe grounded space for real work and lasting breakthroughs to happen.

I know you will cherish your week with us – it truly is magical.

With love,

I want you to experience the same rebirth of purpose and joy that I have.

​Of course, that may not happen in one retreat, but I trust that if we show up together, you will find the creative joy, the purpose, and the self-regard you crave, and that you name any number of exciting fulfilling new directions to explore after the retreat.

I can’t wait to share with you the magic of “why bother?” with you!

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Why Bother?

Discover the Desire for What’s Next

The new book from best-selling author Jennifer Louden

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