Checking Your Basic Needs

 

What is it?

A need is something we require for our well-being, like food, sunlight, contact with other humans; our needs should be nonnegotiable, things we cannot do without. But sometimes we get so wrapped up in life, in surviving, in getting ahead, in taking care of others, that we lose sight of these basic requirements. Don’t let that happen! Healthy self-care begins with checking to see if you are meeting your basic needs and then working to fulfill them.

 

You’ll Need:

A pencil.

 

When to do this:

When you are vaguely dissatisfied, depressed, or tense.

When you can’t remember the last time you got a good night’s sleep, relaxed, or ate a healthy meal.

 

What to do:

Checklist

This list will help you create a picture of your lifestyle. Check off the needs you are meeting regularly:

 

               Do you usually get six to eight hours of sleep?

               Do you eat something fresh and unprocessed every day?

               Do you allow time in your week to touch nature, no matter how briefly?

               Do you get enough sunlight, especially in the wintertime?

               Do you see your gynecologist (or the equivalent) at least once a year?

               Do you see a dentist every six months?

               Do you know enough about your body and health needs?

               Do you get regular sexual thrills?

               Do you feel you get enough fun exercise?

               Are you hugged and touched amply?

               Do you make time for friendship? Do you nurture your friendships?

               Do you have friends you can call when you are down, friends who really listen?

               Can you honestly ask for help when you need it?

               Do you regularly release your negative emotions?

               Do you forgive yourself when you make a mistake?

               Do you do things that give you a sense of fulfillment, joy, and purpose?

               Is there abundant beauty in your life? Do you allow yourself to see beauty and bring beauty into your home and office?

               Do you make time for solitude?

               Are you getting daily or weekly spiritual nourishment?

               Can you remember the last time you laughed until you cried?

               Do you ever accept yourself for who you are?

 

These questions are not meant to make you feel bad or guilty. They are only meant as kind reminders to help you see how you are currently caring for yourself.