Savor & Serve with Christine Arylo + More Gifts

I don’t like to talk about self-love. The subject has always made me uncomfortable because like my spiritual life, it feels so very intimate, so close to my heart, it feel awkward to discuss with the right amount of depth and care. It reminds me of why I hated taking communion in “the round”  – encircled by the rest of the church – because it felt like far too private a moment to be witnessed.

Self-love is, of course, a spiritual practice. It is, ultimately, about the relationship between you and Source. It is inhabiting the truth – through your thoughts, deeds, and actions – that there is no separation. And that feels so astonishing to me, I just don’t always know what to say. It also makes me less than forgiving when people trivalize the conversation about self-love. That makes me weary or even angry.

But, of course, we must try to talk about this mysterious intimate practice or how will others learn? And how we will reconnect when we forget? But how can we do it in a way that is reverent and helpful?

I like how Christine Arylo talks about self-love, especially in her new book: Madly in Love With Me.

I gave a copy to my daughter as she thirsts for a way to speak to herself more kindly.  Christine writes in the lighthearted tone perfect for women who don’t cotton to self-help while teaching some of the most important ideas about self-regard, including one of my favorite topics, self-trust.

Keeping with my  50th birthday giveaway, here are today’s gifts – may they increase your knowing that you are divine. (New here? I turn 50 on November 30th and I’m giving stuff away every few days. The first giveaways are here and here and here. More to come.)

Gift Six

Comment on this post by Tuesday November 27th for a chance to win a copy of Christine’s new book Madly in Love with Me or a copy of my first book, The Woman’s Comfort Book. Two winners.

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Gift Seven

A convo between me and Christine designed to reignite your self-love flame. We jaw about:

  • The difference between self-love and self-esteem (Christine makes a great distinction).
  • How to never let your self-love tank run on empty again.
  • What to do when self-care is literally impossible and you are crispy fried dried to a rind.(I get testy on this one & Christine delivers.)
  • What Christine does to recenter when she runs herself ragged .

I hope this interview is useful. Feel free to share with your girlfriends and daughters!


Download: ChristineArylo.mp3

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  • http://www.facebook.com/kristin.noelle.5 Kristin Noelle

    This is so great – thank you Jen and Christine!!!

  • http://jszflanagan.wordpress.com/ Jennifer Szescula Flanagan

    So many goodies to listen to and things for me to look at while on vacation – Thank you so much!!

  • June

    Thank you for the generous opportunities to continue my journey of
    discovering “self” as I call it. Either book would be a treasure
    indeed. I’m loving your birthday journey too! Thanks again!!

  • http://twitter.com/Bibia Bea

    it is so important for us to learn how to love ourselves! Thank you for showing us the way!!!!

  • margaretbergen17@gmail.com

    Thanks for the great giveaway! Both books sound wonderful..

  • Sérene N

    Yay! This giveaway is fantastic! I’d love to get to read your book! And your post and your description of Christine’s book really resonates with me. I’m not a big fan of ‘fluffy’/'hippy-dippy’ information about self care/well-being, so her book sounds right up my alley!

  • Leesa

    Ahhh this keeps coming up for me this week, love and trust who you are!

  • SusanBee

    Thank you so much for all this love. And a very Happy Birthday to you!

  • Megan Miller

    Self love is what I plan on working on for 2013!

  • http://www.facebook.com/dianne.sims.12 Dianne Thompson

    Self trust is a Big issue for me. You know the usual happening…. ignore self, take someone else’s advice knowing all along the self is right and then get angry/upset when the other advice is “wrong”……. shoulda, coulda, didn’t.

  • Caroline Gallup

    I love how happy YOUR birthday is making ME! Thanks for the chance to own one of these great books!

  • Kat

    Christine’s book sounds like what I’ve been needing lately. I’ve been through an emotionally challenging year that has caused me to lose a lot of trust in myself, and as I try to rebuild, I think a little help might be in order. Thank you for sharing this, and yourself!

  • Andrea Saladino

    Great interview. Thank you and Happy 50th. (I turned 50 this year also).

  • http://www.facebook.com/etaesali Eloise Taesali

    I was lucky enough to find your book “The Comfort Queen’s Guide to Life” while visiting my daughter in Tempe in 2010. We were at the Tempe library and your tattered and earmarked book was on sale for the bargain price of twenty five cents! It looked intriguing and I bought it. After reading it cover to cover I would have spent any amount asked for just to know the secrets within. That book took me to a soulful journey i could not have imagined! I’ve been following you ever since and want to thank you now for the untold opportunities that have opened up in my universe, so Thank You! With love, Ellie

  • http://twitter.com/sherrygaley Sherry Galey

    What a brilliant interview and incredible book by Christine. And yours of course is a classic. Just want to wish you happy birthday and share that the years after turning 50 have been hands down the best of my life.

  • katscanlan

    oh, your book, please, if I’m chosen – I crave comfort right now ~

    and thanks for you generosity, Jen

  • melissa

    thank you for this generous offering. grateful for your honest, fierce and love-soaked storytelling. always receive inspiration and solace. abrazos. xo

  • http://www.facebook.com/beth.sumnerwichmann Beth Sumner-Wichmann

    Looking forward to the download. The conversations have been amazing. Thank you so much.

  • Patricia

    I have been searching for such a book….when I couldn’t find it, I wished for it and now it exists. Thanks for the opportunity to win.

  • Brigitte

    How generous of you! I can’t wait to listen to the interview. Thanks so much for everything, Jen!

  • http://www.facebook.com/gail.overstreet Gail Overstreet

    “I read and walked for miles at night along the beach, writing bad blank verse and searching endlessly for someone wonderful who would step out of the darkness and change my life. It never crossed my mind that that person could be me.”
    ― Anna Quindlen

  • Melissa Piccola

    I love your gifts and this book looks like one every woman needs…I’ve spent the last year and half really learning to love myself…I know a few other women who still struggle with self love so this may be a great gift for them. Thank you for all of your gifts!

    • jenlouden

      Dearest Melissa, You have been chosen by the gods of self-love to receive a copy of my first book The Woman’s Comfort Book. Please email Deb your address to Deb at jennifer louden dot com and tell her you are the winner per my birthday contest. Sound good??

  • Hope Evey

    Thank you so much! The interview sounds quite timely for me :)

  • Caren Baginski

    I look forward to reading this – a super important topic with a catchy title!

  • Karen Duffy

    Great conversation. How true — it’s not just a woman’s issue — it’s an issue of how society isn’t structured to support FAMILIES to lead a balanced lifestyle.

  • http://www.facebook.com/laura.swartzbaugh.7 Laura Swartzbaugh

    I think that self trust is HUGE in terms of finding your way. I’ve been working on it for about two years now, and I am astonished in the rewards that come with this work. Thank you!

  • Sara Addington

    This is something I’ve been working on all year. It’s been kind of like my theme this year. Seems like it will be an ongoing process…

  • http://twitter.com/MaryEPritchard Mary Pritchard, PhD

    I love, love, love the picture that accompanies this blog. It expresses all of the components on self love so well. Thank you for sharing this gift with us.

  • Aubrey R

    Thanks for the giveaway, and call recording! Would love to win a book. :)

  • Maya

    Thank you for highlighting the importance of self-love. I’m 30 and it’s something I struggle with valuing as much as my expression of love for my family and friends, which comes naturally for me. Even when I prioritize self-love, i don’t always know what it should look like. I’d love to read these books!

  • Debbie Hill

    I love the tree! What a visual way to express. Thanks

  • http://www.facebook.com/jaime.wells.18 J’aime Wells

    When I read the first sentence, I wondered who was guest posting on your blog today! “I don’t like to talk about self-love”… but Jen, that’s what you DO… but I think I get it. I’m glad you talk about it anyway, while also practicing it by staying within your comfort zone.

  • http://www.facebook.com/marcia.francois Marcia Francois

    I would love to win a copy of the book. Have just downloaded your mp3 – can’t wait to listen in when I’m at home (in office now).
    Happy 50th for Friday – what a lovely idea to celebrate by giving :)

  • Prita

    Good topic! :) I think important to be loving towards yourself x Prita

  • Milene

    I’ve started going into the rabbit hole of self-love a few years ago. I admit it was and still is a struggle to love myself. Yet the rewards are beyond anything I could have imagined. Thank you for talking about such an important concept!

  • http://www.facebook.com/janine.rood Janine Rood

    Hi Jen! I’ve been enjoying your 50th ‘shower of abundance’! I love this post and can’t wait to hear Christine’s discussion of the difference between self-esteem (pretty easy) and self-love (relentlessly challenging – for me at least!). Would love to win the free book!
    Janine

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  • Helga

    What a great topic for a 50th birthday “threshold,” Jen! You’re right: Self-love feels like a private thing; difficult to discuss in a way that is meaningful to others. It’s also always felt like a weird term to me without coming up with one that feels more in step with what I’d like to extend to myself. That’s why I’m so excited about the term “self-regard.” It seems to successfully mingle self-love, self-respect, and self-trust (self-esteem is on a different page for me, too). “Regard” to me conveys that I’m holding something gently and respectfully while I inspect and care for it lovingly and without judgment – just the way I’d like to treat myself. Thank you for that handle!

    If you were to choose me for the book give-away, may I please request “Madly in Love with Me” because, of course, I have copies of all your books, Jen :)

    • jenlouden

      You won Christine’s book!! SWEETNESS!

      • Helga

        Yippee! Thanks so much Jen!

  • Jessica

    I love how there are so many inspirational women out there championing self-love. It’s so important and so often overlooked – we can say the meanest things to ourselves without even realising it.

    Learning to love my self. Feels good.

    Thank you Jen for championing and sharing so many courageous beautiful people and for being one yourself. Much love xxx

  • http://www.facebook.com/fiona.shevlin Fiona Shevlin

    Lovely giveaway, thank you!

  • Amanda

    I really like the interview and especially about the subject of comparison. Comparison happens everyday and with social media/ internet it has become so overwhelming & all consuming social practice. This really woke me up and how I need to appreciate other people as well as myself to spread more love instead more judgment in the world. Thank you for the interview and good luck to everyone! :)